114 quotes found
“Everyone heals in their own time and in their own way. The path isn't always a straight line, and you don't need to go it alone.”
“The damage and invisible scars ofemotional abuseare very difficult to heal, because memories are imprinted on our minds and hearts and it takes time to be restored. Imprints of past traumas donot m...”
“As you heal, you see yourself more realistically. You accept that you are a person with strengths and weaknesses. You make the changes you can in your life and let go of the things that arent in yo...”
“Everything you need to heal is inside yourself. You only need support and encouragement to listen to yourselfto your thoughts, feelings, imagery, and inner spiritual urgings. A book, like a therapi...”
“do not look for healingat the feet of thosewho broke you”
“Some Survivors get angry at having to work at recovering from sexual abuse. They feel that it is unfair. They suffered all their life because of what someone else did to them: why do they have to s...”
“When there is inconsistency in belief and action (such as being violated by someone who is supposed to love you) our mind has to make an adjustment so that thought and action are aligned. So someti...”
“...some patients resist the diagnosis of a post-traumatic disorder. They may feel stigmatized by any psychiatric diagnosis or wish to deny their condition out of a sense of pride. Some people feel ...”
“While in principle groups for survivors are a good idea, in practice it soon becomes apparent that to organize a successful group is no simple matter. Groups that start out with hope and promise ca...”
“We each have our own ways of sabotaging & keeping ourselves downDo we need to remain the victim so strongly that we pull the ceiling down upon our own heads? There is a comfort in the familiar. Als...”
“Our need to be "greater than" or "less than" has been a defense against toxic shame. A shameful act was committed upon us. The perpetrator walked away, leaving us with the shame. We absorbed the no...”
“Even if our survival skills have become impediments we would like to let go of because they have ceased to serve us, we can still love ourselves with them. In appreciation of our survival, we can b...”
“We can ill afford to wait until we have worked through all our memories & feelings about incest before learning to rest & play. While it may seem to be a natural impulse to get to the bottom of thi...”
“Though our childhood abuse left us feeling someone ought to make reparation to us, if we wait a lifetime for that, we may never receive what we need. We choose instead to face the idea that from no...”
“The bridge out of shame is outrage. Suddenly the obvious becomes stunningly clearwe have been carrying shame for the crime of the offenderIn a clear flash we may see ourselves standing in a fierce ...”
“Often it isnt the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.”
“Daddy," she says again, this time putting more of a needy whine into her voice. It is the thing that has swayed him, these times when he has come near to turning on her: remembering that she is his...”
“when traumatic events are of human design, those who bear witness are caught in the conflict between victim and perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to...”
“There came a time in my life when I had to admit to myself that I have some very clear narcissistic tendencies. Ironically, it occurred during the writing of my book The Emotionally Abused Woman. A...”
“I'm left with Haymitch in the rubble, wondering if Finnicks fate would have one day been mine. Why not? Snow could have gotten a really good price for the girl on fire.”
