“Some of your childhood traumas may be remembered with incredible clarity, while others are so frightening or incomprehensible that your conscious mind buries the memory in your unconscious.”

“Sexual abuse is also a secret crime, one that usually has no witness. Shame and secrecy keep a child from talking to siblings about the abuse, even if all the children in a family are being sexuall...”

“The unconscious mind always operates in the present tense, and when a memory is buried in the unconscious, the unconscious preserves it as an ongoing act of abuse in the present of the unconscious ...”

“Dissociation gets you through a brutal experience, letting your basic survival skills operate unimpededYour ability to survive is enhanced as the ability to feel is diminishedAll feeling are blocke...”

“In general, the more dysfunctional the family the more inappropriate their response to disclosure. Never expect a sane response from an insane system.”

“Dissociation, a form of hypnotic trance, helps children survive the abuseThe abuse takes on a dream-like, surreal quality and deadened feelings and altered perceptions add to the strangeness. The w...”

“Stop looking for that person you were in the past. She has changed. Look for the person she has grown into. She is wiser and stronger than than ever before. Don't go back to who you were. Cherish w...”

“Closeness was the promise of suffering and pain”

“In spite of the horror, in spite of the tragedy, in spite of the weeks of sleepless nights, I'm finally alive. I'm not pretending. I feel real. I'm not playing charades anymore. I wouldn't go back ...”

“Smiling at someone can have significant health consequences.”

“You're not free unless you come to the place where you have nothing to prove.”

“A man who has HEALTH has a thousand dreams, but a man without HEALTH has only one.”

“... scar tissue was the strongest tissue in the human body.”

“Beyond reasonable doubt, the each of us possesses unique gifts, amazing abilities to help heal the world if we so choose.”

“Time is the great healer. No matter how difficult the circumstances that cross our path, it takes time for our emotions, minds and spirit to process whats happened. Rushing to make choices too quic...”