“Its common to reject or punish yourself when youve been rejected by others. When you experience disappointment from the way your family or others treat you, thats the time to take special care of y...”

“In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amend...”

“If you are trading silence or compliance for love, you are being cheated. When acceptance or love is withheld if you reveal secrets, the value of the relationship is just an illusion. Love cannot b...”

“I no longer look to my abusers with any expectation of remorse, or apology or restitution or restoration or relationship. Im at peace, accepting that they wont and cant help me out of the mess they...”

“I believed I was too sensitive and weak. To prove I wasnt a victim anymore, I moved closer to painful experiences rather than away from them. Remaining in harms way and exposing myself to more pain...”

“The childhood sexual abuse taught me that my value came from sex. In adulthood, I was driven to have sex since I always felt worthless. I felt important and desired until it was over and then I fel...”

“I am insane, does that surprise you? Ha! I think my mind is crumbling, just like crackers. If I had written five minutes earlier I would have wept, if I had written ten minutes earlier I would have...”

“When we think we're multitasking we're actually multiswitching. That is what the brain is very good at doing - quickly diverting its attention from one place to the next. We think we're being produ...”

“Learn to deal with the fact that you are not a perfect person but you are a person that deserves respect and honesty.”

“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn't li...”

“I wonder if fears ever really go away, or if they just lose their power over us.”

“Fear is all in the mind”

“You pay for what you get, you own what you pay for... and sooner or later whatever you own comes back home to you.”

“You pay for what you get, you own what you pay for... and sooner or later whatever you own comes back home to you.”