“The inability to get something out of your head is a signal that shouts, Dont forget to deal with this! As long as you experience fear or pain with a memory or flashback, there is a lie attached th...”

“In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amend...”

“If you are trading silence or compliance for love, you are being cheated. When acceptance or love is withheld if you reveal secrets, the value of the relationship is just an illusion. Love cannot b...”

“I no longer look to my abusers with any expectation of remorse, or apology or restitution or restoration or relationship. Im at peace, accepting that they wont and cant help me out of the mess they...”

“I believed I was too sensitive and weak. To prove I wasnt a victim anymore, I moved closer to painful experiences rather than away from them. Remaining in harms way and exposing myself to more pain...”

“The childhood sexual abuse taught me that my value came from sex. In adulthood, I was driven to have sex since I always felt worthless. I felt important and desired until it was over and then I fel...”

“I have a history of making decisions very quickly about men. I have always fallen in love fast and without measuring risks. I have a tendency not only to see the best in everyone, but to assume tha...”

“Nobody ever gets what they want when it comes to love.”

“The strength of a love is always misjudged if we evaluate it by its immediate cause and not the stress that went before it, the dark and hollow space full of disappointment and loneliness that prec...”

“The goal is to learn to be nurturing with yourself so you can feel free.”

“Pain is not the same as suffering. Left to itself, the body discharges pain spontaneously, letting go of it the moment that the underlying cause is healed. Suffering is pain that we hold on to. It ...”

“In pleasant peace and security How suddenly the soul in a man begins to die He shall look up above the stalled oxen Envying the cruel falcon, And dig under the straw for a stone To bruise himself on.”

“It is amazing, though, what pains your subconscious will undergo in achieve sustainable peace.”