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“The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.”
“Owing to a poorly defined sense of self, people with BPD rely on others for their feelings of worth and emotional caretaking. So fearful are they of feeling alone that they may act in desperate way...”
“The borderline Queen experiences what therapists call "oral greediness". The desperate hunger of the borderline Queen is akin to the behavior of an infant who had gone too long between feelings. St...”
“They love without measure those whom they will soon hate without reason.”
“I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.”
“People with BPD are like people with third degree burns over 90% of their bodies. Lacking emotional skin, they feel agony at the slightest touch or movement.”
“My skin is so thin that the innocent words of others burn holes right through me.”
“I honestly didnt realize at the time that I was dealing with myself. But I suppose its true that I developed a therapy that provides the things I needed for so many years and never got.”
“I thought the doctor's diagnosis was the first step to mending her. I know now that a diagnosis is taken in like an orphaned dog. We brought it home, unsure how to care for it, to live with it. It ...”
“Thirty seconds of pure awareness is a long time, especially after a lifetime of escaping yourself at all costs.”
“But what if you simply don't have a solid self to return toif the way you are is seen as basically broken? And what if you can't conceive of "normal" or "healthy" because pain and loneliness are al...”
“Yet I also recognize this: Even if everyone in the world were to accept me and my illness and validate my pain, unless I can abide myself and be compassionate toward my own distress, I will probabl...”
“In the life cycle of an intense emotion, if it isn't acted upon, it eventually peaks and then decreases. But as Dr. Linehan explains, people with BPD have a different physiological experience with ...”
“We need this help from the outside because we don't know how to to do this for ourselves. We start with a deep deficita chasm reallywhen it comes to understanding and being tolerant of ourselves, a...”
“I need them to be aware and present with me in the midst of the storm, not just tell me what to do.”
“An inner ease spreads inside me. Such is the power of acceptance and understanding from other people, the power of validation”
“I've grown up with an ethic, call it a part, that insists I hide my pain at all costs. As I talk, I feel this pain leaking outnot just the core symptom of BPD, but all the years of being blamed or ...”
“For those of us with BPD, entering into a shared experience means passing through the ring of fire that leaves us feeling even more burnedand in this case branded with a label no one would ever cho...”
“It's not about blame or wallowing...you are all molded by so much more than a dysfunctional past, and you must ultimately take responsibility for creating the life you want.”
“All the skills from DBT glom together, a mass of acronyms without any meaning. I pull out the DBT books and paw through the pages. Something has to help. Then I find these words: 'The lives of suic...”
