Lately, he had been wondering if codependence was such a bad thing. He took pleasure in his friendships, and it didnt hurt anyone, so who cared if it was codependent or not? And anyway, how was a friendship any more codependent than a relationship? Why was it admirable when you were twenty-seven but creepy when you were thirty-seven? Why wasnt friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasnt it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified. Friendship was witnessing anothers slow drip of miseries, and long bouts of boredom, and occasional triumphs. It was feeling honoured by the privilege of getting to be present for another persons most dismal moments, and knowing that you could be dismal around him in return.
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About Hanya Yanagihara
Hanya Yanagihara was American novelist and travel writer. Hanya Yanagihara is an American novelist, editor, and travel writer. She grew up in Hawaii. Read more on Wikipedia →
Themes
- Friendship — Celebrating the bonds of loyalty, trust, and companionship