Quotes by Melody Beattie

“I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was oka...”

“Once they have been affected---once "it" sets in---codependency takes on a life of its own. It is similar to catching pneumonia or picking up a destructive habit. Once you've got it, you've got it....”

“You don't blast a heart open," she said. "You coax and nurture it open, like the sun does to a rose.”

“Beliefs create reality”

“We Are Lovable Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay. Codependent No More Do you ever find yourself thinking: How could anyone poss...”

“Ever since people first existed, they have been doing all the things we label "codependent." They have worried themselves sick about other people. They have tried to help in ways that didn't help. ...”

“If we want to change what happens, we change what we believe and expect.”

“Gratitude isn't a tool to manipulate the universe or God. It's a way to acknowledge our faith that everything happens for a reason even if we don't know what that reason is. ~Melody Beattie, 52 Wee...”

“He talks about God, and loving God. he says that when we open to loving a person, whether that person is a spouse, friend, or child, we open our hearts to loving God. He says when we let someone lo...”

“It's hard to give up the self-esteem connected to being codependent and appearing 'right,' which is probably a survival behavior learned from growing up in a crazy family. It feels like you will ac...”

“Twelve-step promotes spirituality, not religion. It gives a practical, day-to-day spirituality that tells me what I can and cannot control. There is room to be imperfect and to be someone who strug...”

“Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living l...”

“The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals.”

“Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house ...”

“We can trust ourselves to know when our boundaries are being violated.”

“Each moment in time we have it all even when we think we don't.”

“We have as much time as we need.”

“Gratitude isn't a tool to manipulate the universe or God. It's a way to acknowledge our faith that everything happens for a reason even if we don't know what that reason is. ~Melody Beattie, 52 Wee...”

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough and more. It turns denial into acceptance chaos to order confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast a house into...”