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“As she breaks the silence, the upscale abused wife begins to feel affirmed and validated. The rationalizations she once relied on to sustain her within the marriage and to maintain the marital rela...”
“When others witness or comment on abusive behaviors, the little voice that the upscale abused wife once heard inside her and ignored or muffled becomes amplified. Slowly she starts to recognize tha...”
“But if he is angry at the world for doing him harm, why does he take it out on his loving partner? Couldnt he just as readily express his rage by playing racquetball or pounding pillows. His ideas ...”
“When a woman is convinced that she can stop the violence in her marriage, her stubborn determination feeds her sense of failure each time she sees that she cant regulate her husbands demands and ab...”
“Once this bubble of self-deception is burst and the mask that shielded her and others from what she wished to ignore is lifted, it is difficult for the woman to return to her life as it was. It has...”
“Canadian researcher Donald Dutton . . has written that marital work with a man who has a history of relationship violence may be a conflict-generator and that individual work . . should come first ...”
“Julia's fears of coming forward with the violence were based on anticipated as well as actual responses from friends and acquaintances. I also recognized Julia's introverted and moody side, but I k...”
“Consider these traditional theories of domestic abuse:- Learned helplessness suggest that abused women learn to become helpless under abusive conditions; they are powerless to extricate themselves ...”
