“I dont regret anything Ive ever done in life, any choice that Ive made. But Im consumed with regret for the things I didnt do, the choices I didnt make, the things I didnt say. We spend so much tim...”

“he way my mother always explained it, the traditional man wants a woman to be subservient, but he never falls in love with subservient women. Hes attracted to independent women. Hes like an exotic ...”

“We tell people to follow their dreams, but you can only dream of what you can imagine, and, depending on where you come from, your imagination can be quite limited.”

“The hood is also a low-stress, comfortable life. All your mental energy goes into getting by, so you dont have to ask yourself any of the big questions. Who am I? Who am I supposed to be? Am I doin...”

“Relationships are built in the silences.”

“A man is not determined by how much he earns. You can still be the man of the house and earn less than your woman. Being a man is not what you have , it's who you are. Being more of a man doesn't m...”

“It seems to me that since I've had children, I've grown richer and deeper. They may have slowed down my writing for a while, but when I did write, I had more of a self to speak from.”

“Stranger inside me, when you are born, I will give youa closed book and ask you never to read it, never rest, never forgive a man who wants to save you.”

“We must accept the idea that having a male child has a unique social and psychological meaning for a woman. Even women who led the movement to break out the passivity and sublimation of the female ...”

“[W]hen it's slow, they send you home, and when it's busy, they expect you to stay late. They also expect you to be able to come in to cover someone's shift if a co-worker gets sick at the last minu...”

“Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to p...”

“A man may beg, but a woman has to sell.”