The hell of it is, I know the answer. The answer is that you never, ever, rely on another person for your peace of mind. If you do, you're screwed but good. Not right away, maybe, but sooner or later. You have to -- I don't know --you have to learn to live with yourself. You have to learn to turn back your own sheets and set a table for one without feeling pathetic. You have to be strong and confident and pleased with yourself and never give the slightest impression that you can't hack it without that certain goddamn someone. You have to fake the hell out of it.
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Armistead Maupin was a contemporary American writer. Armistead Jones Maupin, Jr. is an American writer notable for Tales of the City, a series of novels set in San Francisco. Read more on Wikipedia →

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