It is extremely important to be able to make negative assertions. We must be able to say what is not me in order to have a me. What we like has no meaning unless we know what we dont like. Our yes has no meaning if we never say no. My chosen profession has no passion if just anyone would do. Our opinions and thoughts mean very little if there is nothing we disagree with.
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Henry Cloud was a contemporary American christian self help author and psychologist. Henry Cloud is an American Christian self-help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series. Read more on Wikipedia →

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