Who are we to say getting incested or abused or violated or any of those things cant have their positive aspects in the long run? You have to be careful of taking a knee-jerk attitude. Having a knee-jerk attitude to anything is a mistake, especially in the case of women, where it adds up to this very limited and condescending thing of saying theyre fragile, breakable things that can be destroyed easily. Everybody gets hurt and violated and broken sometimes. Why are women so special? Not that anybody ought to be raped or abused, nobodys saying that, but thats what is going on. What about afterwards? All Im saying is there are certain cases where it can enlarge you or make you more of a complete human being, like Viktor Frankl. Think about the Holocaust. Was the Holocaust a good thing? No way. Does anybody think it was good that it happened? No, of course not. But did you read Viktor Frankl? Viktor Frankls Mans Search for Meaning? Its a great, great book, but it comes out of his experience. Its about his experience in the human dark side. Now think about it, if there was no Holocaust, thered be no Mans Search for Meaning . Think about it. Think about being degraded and brought within an inch of your life, for example. No ones gonna say the sick bastards who did it shouldnt be put in jail, but lets put two things into perspective here. One is, afterwards she knows something about herself that she never knew before. What she knows is that the most totally terrible terrifying thing that she could ever have imagined happening to her has now happened, and she survived. Shes still here, and now she knows something. I mean she really, really knows. Look, totally terrible things happen . Existence in life breaks people in all kinds of awful fucking ways all the time, trust me I know. Ive been there. And this is the big difference, you and me here, cause this isnt about politics or feminism or whatever, for you this is just ideas, youve never been there. Im not saying nothing bad has ever happened to you, youre not bad looking, Im sure theres been some sort of degradation or whatever come your way in life, but Im talking Viktor Frankls Mans Search for Meaning type violation and terror and suffering here. The real dark side. I can tell from just looking at you, you never. You wouldnt even wear what youre wearing, trust me. What if I told you it was my own sister that was raped? What if I told you a little story about a sixteen-year-old girl who went to the wrong party with the wrong guy and four of his buddies that ended up doing to her just about everything four guys could do to you in terms of violation? But if you could ask her if she could go into her head and forget it or like erase the tape of it happening in her memory, what do you think shed say? Are you so sure what shed say? What if she said that even after that totally negative as what happened was, at least now she understood it was possible. People can. Can see you as a thing. That people can see you as a thing, do you know what that means? Because if you really can see someone as a thing you can do anything to him. What would it be like to be able to be like that? You see, you think you can imagine it but you cant. But she can. And now she knows something. I mean she really, really knows. This is what you wanted to hear, you wanted to hear about four drunk guys who knee-jerk you in the balls and make you bend over that you didnt even know, that you never saw before, that you never did anything to, that dont even know your name, they dont even know your name to find out you have to choose to have a fucking name, you have no fucking idea, and what if I said that happened to ME? Would that make a difference?