“One major cost of self-deception is that we use painful life experiences to justify being non-ideal versions of ourselves.”

“We would all benefit by shifting our focus from seeing pain as bad to seeing pain as motivation to change.”

“Living through difficult life circumstances in not an excuse for passing trauma onto someone else.”

“The truth is that our self-deceptive lies range from seemingly tiny untruths to massive life-altering falsehoods about reality.”

“I cannot overemphasize the impact our childhood has on our ability to be honest because we live out what we learned as children in our adult relationships.”

“When you are not aware that you are bringing old learning to your current relationships, you will want to lie about where it is coming from.”

“The most basic and somehow forgettable thing is this: Love is not pain. Love is goodness. And real love--it's less shiny than solid and simple.”

“Kindness is the basic ingredient for the recipe of happiness.”

“Love is basic of success.”

“I suppose life is what you believe it to be. Perhaps believing in life is its true nature.”

“Three years? That's a thousand tomorrows, ma'am.”

“I believe in love. I believe in hard times and love winning. I believe marriage is hard. I believe people make mistakes. I believe people can want two things at once. I believe people are selfish a...”

“There are some things one remembers even though they may never have happened.”

“The stories people tell you about themselves seem to retain the possibility of being false. But what you discover about them by yourself seems to be the truth.”

“Those suffering from terminal falsehood seek out each other, like a drunk seeks out a wall so that he doesn't fall down.”