“One major cost of self-deception is that we use painful life experiences to justify being non-ideal versions of ourselves.”

“We would all benefit by shifting our focus from seeing pain as bad to seeing pain as motivation to change.”

“Living through difficult life circumstances in not an excuse for passing trauma onto someone else.”

“The truth is that our self-deceptive lies range from seemingly tiny untruths to massive life-altering falsehoods about reality.”

“I cannot overemphasize the impact our childhood has on our ability to be honest because we live out what we learned as children in our adult relationships.”

“When you are not aware that you are bringing old learning to your current relationships, you will want to lie about where it is coming from.”

“Fear is a vile thing, and is at the bottom of almost every wrong and hatred of the world.”

“Courage consists not in hazarding without fear but being resolutely minded in a just cause. ”

“Figure out your passion. What floats your boat, rings your bell, lights your tree? A life without passion is possible, but not desirable. Have you really lived at all if you have not lived with pas...”