“Being in a state of denial is auniversally human response tosituations which threaten tooverwhelm. People who were abusedas children sometimes carry theirdenial like precious cargo without aport of...”

“I spent most of my life believing lwas crazy because all the crazy things I experienced in childhood were treated as nonexistent or normal. This belief colored every decision made, from something s...”

“I've been depressed all day. I feel like such a fraud. People say how special and wonderful I am. I think,"Can't they tell? "Nita, September 18, 1984”

“We say, "It wasn't that bad. It was all my fault. Im making all this stuff up. "All my life, I spoke bitterly of my mother's treatment of me as a child.Friends asked, What did she do to you? I coul...”

“Nita: I think I overdid the vulnerability stuff in this last letter. and thats why Im having an anxiety attack.Howard: With the vulnerability comes the possibility that youll be betrayed. Now that ...”

“Even greater than my fear that l was crazy, was my lifelong dread that someone would find out.”

“Blame is the creed of the disempowered.”

“The most judgmental people are often those who complain most about being judged. The ones not complaining will look as though they're the ones doing the judging.”

“A child is not to blame for being immersed in a certain environment and handed down complexes”

“I think you still love me, but we cant escape the fact that Im not enough for you. I knew this was going to happen. So Im not blaming you for falling in love with another woman. Im not angry, eithe...”

“I will not try to convince you to love me, to respect me, to commit to me. I deserve better than that; I AM BETTER THAN THAT...Goodbye.”

“Sometimes you want to say, I love you, butYet the but takes away the I love you. In love their are no buts or ifs or when. Its just there, and always. No beginning, no end. Its the condition-less s...”

“A statue stands in a shaded placeAn angel girl with an upturned faceA name is written on a polished rockA broken heart that the world forgot”

“If you are really doing all this for your kids, then why are you so mean to them?”

“A terrible sadness threatened to overwhelm me as I wondered how two people capable of such love for each other had eventually felt so little for the child they had produced between them.”