“One major cost of self-deception is that we use painful life experiences to justify being non-ideal versions of ourselves.”

“We would all benefit by shifting our focus from seeing pain as bad to seeing pain as motivation to change.”

“Living through difficult life circumstances in not an excuse for passing trauma onto someone else.”

“The truth is that our self-deceptive lies range from seemingly tiny untruths to massive life-altering falsehoods about reality.”

“I cannot overemphasize the impact our childhood has on our ability to be honest because we live out what we learned as children in our adult relationships.”

“When you are not aware that you are bringing old learning to your current relationships, you will want to lie about where it is coming from.”

“I suppose life is what you believe it to be. Perhaps believing in life is its true nature.”

“Three years? That's a thousand tomorrows, ma'am.”

“I believe in love. I believe in hard times and love winning. I believe marriage is hard. I believe people make mistakes. I believe people can want two things at once. I believe people are selfish a...”

“The first law of nature is self-preservation. Cut off that which may harm you. But if it is worth preserving, and is meaningful, nourish it and have no regrets. Ultimately, this is true living and ...”

“A man who preserves his integrity no real, long-lasting harm can ever come.”

“I lie to her. Because this world is not safe. The people who are supposed to protect us, the people we are supposed to trust -- I know that sometimes they are the ones who do the most harm.”

“Above all, don't lie to yourself. The man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point that he cannot distinguish the truth within him, or around him, and so loses all respect fo...”

“Of all the bright cruel lies they tell you, the cruelest is the one called love.”

“Don't cry, I'm sorry to have deceived you so much, but that's how life is.”