“Im not interested in Bob Marley telling me to lively up myself. The only music that satisfies me is Nine Inch Nails and Trent Reznors voice crying through industrial rhytms. In the August evenings,...”

“DBT's catchphrase of developing a life worth living means you're not just surviving; rather, you have good reasons for living. I'm also getting better at keeping another dialectic in mind: On the o...”

“I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.”

“Thirty seconds of pure awareness is a long time, especially after a lifetime of escaping yourself at all costs.”

“But what if you simply don't have a solid self to return toif the way you are is seen as basically broken? And what if you can't conceive of "normal" or "healthy" because pain and loneliness are al...”

“Yet I also recognize this: Even if everyone in the world were to accept me and my illness and validate my pain, unless I can abide myself and be compassionate toward my own distress, I will probabl...”

“In some ways, com­ing to terms with my­self and work­ing to­ward re­cov­ery has been like say­ing “I love you” to some­one but keep­ing a loaded gun hid­den in your back pocket, just in case that p...”

“The role of the therapist is to reflect the being/accepting self that was never allowed to be in the borderline.”

“Owing to a poorly defined sense of self, people with BPD rely on others for their feelings of worth and emotional caretaking. So fearful are they of feeling alone that they may act in desperate way...”

“The borderline Queen experiences what therapists call "oral greediness". The desperate hunger of the borderline Queen is akin to the behavior of an infant who had gone too long between feelings. St...”