“For love to work, each spouse has to realize his or her freedom. And boundaries help define the freedom we have and the freedom we do not have. Marriage is not slavery. It is based on a love relati...”

“Certainly, child rearing requires many different interventions. There are times for helping, for not getting involved, or for being strict, But the real issue is this: Is what you are going being d...”

“If you do not forgive, you are demanding something your offender does not choose to give, even if it is only confession of what he did. This "ties" him to you and ruins boundaries. Let the dysfunct...”

“Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. Boundary construction is most evident in three-year-olds. By this time, they should have mastered the following tasks:1. The ability to be ...”

“We grow in part by confessing our faults and weaknesses to each other (James 5:16; Eccl. 4:10). If we are always being strong and without needs, we are not growing, and we are setting ourselves up ...”

“Page 99: "...unless something changes, the future that you can expect is more of the past. Sorry or becoming committed does not make Jim Carrey a great golfer, or made Jack nicklaus funny. Recommit...”

“As soon as you start fulfilling your purpose your adversaries will appear”

“If you are focused on your calling, the efforts of any adversary will prove powerless”

“Do not allow the adversaries to hinder you from fulfilling what God has planned for you”

“Perfectionism is self-abuse of the highest order.”

“Sometimes its hard to know when youve crossed the line from conscientious to compulsive. When youre in the thick of an assignment, its easy to believe that you must spend so much time brainstorming...”

“Perfectionism, of course, was something which even as a young man he had come to see as the innermost essence of talent.”