Quotes by Stephen Grosz

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“The bigger the front, the bigger the back.”

“When I'm in a couple, I feel I'm disappearing, dying - losing my mind.”

“Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.”

“For a minute, the fantasy frightened her, but ultimately, this fear saved her from feeling alone.”

“Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand - when you're loved, someone wants more of you.”

“we all try to silence painful emotions. but when we succeed in feeling nothing we lose the only means we have of knowing what hurts us and why.”

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“A lot of people, especially psychoanalysts, assume that happiness can only be found in a couple - but not all of us are made for a relationship.”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
assumption couple feeling happiness

“we all try to silence painful emotions. but when we succeed in feeling nothing we lose the only means we have of knowing what hurts us and why.”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
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“The bigger the front, the bigger the back.”
— Stephen Grosz
psychology

“For a minute, the fantasy frightened her, but ultimately, this fear saved her from feeling alone.”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
fear forgotten indifference paranoia

“As he spoke, I had the mental image of a small boy switching on the nightlight, not because he wants to be able to find his parents during the night, but because he fears his parents will forget hi...”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
fear forgetting psychology weakness

“Pyschoanalysts are fond of pointing out that the past is alive in the present. But the future is alive in the present too. The future is not some place we're going to, but an idea in our mind now. ...”
— Stephen Grosz
future living-in-the-present psychoanalysis pyschology

“Being loved is the problem, because love is a demand - when you're loved, someone wants more of you.”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
being-loved couple demand feeling

“When I'm in a couple, I feel I'm disappearing, dying - losing my mind.”
— Stephen Grosz
couple disappearing dying feeling

“Closure is just as delusive-it is the false hope that we can deaden our living grief.”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
closure death grief

“Being present, whether with children, with friends, or even with oneself, is hard work. But isn't this attentiveness -- the feeling that someone is trying to think about us -- something we want mor...”
— Stephen Grosz, The Examined Life: How We Lose and Find Ourselves
attentiveness praise present-moment