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“Empathy isn't just listening, it's asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to.”
“This is the grand fiction of tourism, that bringing our bodies somewhere draws that place closer to us, or we to it. It's a quick fix of empathy.”
“Empathy means realizing no trauma has discrete edges. Trauma bleeds.”
“Empathy isnt just listening, its asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to. Empathy requires inquiry as much as imagination. Empathy requires knowing you know nothing. Empathy means...”
“It's easier, somehow, if there's a reason for tragedy - lust or jealousy or hatred or revenge. We can find in these explanations an emotional tenor commensurate with the gravity of the act. There's...”
“That was a moment where something clarified about shame for me: its not just something negative but some kind of arrow, its pointing at something, some confusing blend of fear and desire. There was...”
“No trauma has discrete edges. Trauma bleeds. Out of wounds and across boundaries.”
“Metaphors are tiny saviors leading the way out of sentimentality, small disciples of Pound, urging "Say it new! Say it new!" It's hard for emotion to feel flat if its language is suitably novel, to...”
“Bolivian women sewed their lips shut for days. They threaded needles through their skin to stop their speech, to show what good speaking had done them.”
“The pain is what you make of it. You have to find something in it that yields. I understood my guiding imperative as: keep bleeding, but find some love in the blood.”
“I loved the full heat of being drunk, like I was made of melting chocolate and spreading in all directions.”
“Empathy means realizing no trauma has discrete edges. Trauma bleeds. out of wounds and across boundaries. Sadness becomes seizure. Empathy demands another kind of porousness in response. My Stephan...”
“Empathy is a kind of care but it’s not the only kind of care, and it’s not always enough.”
“Empathy isn’t just listening, it’s asking the questions whose answers need to be listened to. Empathy requires inquiry as much as imagination. Empathy requires knowing you know nothing. Empathy mea...”
“That was a moment where something clarified about shame for me: it’s not just something negative but some kind of arrow, it’s pointing at something, some confusing blend of fear and desire. There w...”
