Following the Soviet invasion, the Communists, to their credit, passed decrees making girls education compulsory and abolishing certain oppressive tribal customssuch as the bride-price, a payment to the brides family in return for her hand in marriage. However, by massacring thousands of tribal elders, they paved the way for the commanders to step in as the new elite. Aided by American and Saudi patronage, extremism flourished. What had once been a social practice confined to areas deep in the hinterlands now became a political practice, which, according to ideologues, applied to the entire country. The modest gains of urban women were erased.The first time a woman enters her husbands house," Heela told me about life in the countryside, she wears whiteher wedding dressand the first time she leaves, she wears whitethe color of the Muslim funeral shroud. The rules of this arrangement were intricate and precise, and, it seemed to Heela, unchanged from time immemorial. In Uruzgan, a woman did not step outside her compound. In an emergency, she required the company of a male blood relative to leave, and then only with her fathers or husbands permission. Even the sound of her voice carried a hint of subversion, so she was kept out of hearing range of unrelated males. When the man of the house was not present, boys were dispatched to greet visitors. Unrelated males also did not inquire directly about a female member of the house. Asking How is your wife? qualified as somewhere between uncomfortably impolite and downright boorish. The markers of a womans lifebirths, anniversaries, funerals, prayers, feastsexisted entirely within the four walls of her home. Gossip, hopscotching from living room to living room, was carried by husbands or sons.