“My prayer is an attitude of pure gratitude for having the opportunity to experience life on this earth with all its pain, heartache, worry, and turmoil; coupled with this gratitude is the thankfuln...”

“Making amends is not only saying the words but also being willing to listen to how your behavior caused anothers pain, and then the really hard partchanging behavior.”

“Shame is a powerful feeling. There is a tremendous difference between making a mistake and believing you are a mistake...If I dont see myself as being a mistake then it is I who must take responsib...”

“Others hide from being real by filling the air with words; the more words they throw out, the less actual communication happens and they are left with only an illusion of connection. This is the in...”

“Mature adults gravitate toward new values and understandings, not just rehashing and blind acceptance of past patterns and previous learning. This is an ongoing process and maturity demands lifelon...”

“The more severe the dysfunction you experienced growing up, the more difficult boundaries are for you.”

“All the most powerful emotions come from chaos -fear,anger,love- especially love. Love is chaos itself. Think about it! Love makes no sense. It shakes you up and spins you around. And then, eventua...”

“If for a moment you are inclined to regard these taluses as mere draggled, chaotic dumps, climb to the top of one of them, and run down without any haggling, puttering hesitation, boldly jumping fr...”

“She imagines him imagining her. This is her salvation.In spirit she walks the city, traces its labyrinths, its dingy mazes: each assignation, each rendezvous, each door and stair and bed. What he s...”

“We are in the era of dysfunctional relationships.”

“No mean person is mean all the time. The whole point of being mean is to fluctuate so that you can hold out the hope for someone. So someone will hold out the hope that they're gonna catch you on t...”

“A woman in Charlotte approached me and said that shes tired of the dysfunction in my novels. I told her I was sorry, but that is how the world has presented itself to me throughout my life.”

“work at our responsibility as parents as if everything in life counted on it, because in fact everything in life does count on it.”

“Happiness [is] only real when shared”

“That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.”