“No emotional crisis is wholly the product of outward circumstances. These may precipitate it. But what turns an objective situation into a subjectively critical one is the interpretation the indivi...”

“Psychiatrists today . . . see the irrational hostility that people everywhere vent upon one another as chiefly projected self-hate.”

“Where there is no capacity to affirm another as a person in his own right there is no love. There is only masked fear.”

“Where there is no capacity to affirm another as a person in his own right there is no love. There is only masked fear.”

“If you wish to fear nothing consider that everything is to be feared.”

“I survived my childhood by birthing many separate identities to stand in for one another in times of great stress and fear.”

“How does one kill fear? ... How do you shoot a specter through the heart slash off its spectral head take it by its spectral throat?”

“The sun rises bright and beautiful as if it feels no pain.It must not see, it must not hear, it can't possibly or it would not be able to overcome so defiantly.My bed creaks and whines when I leave...”

“When you learn to love your past it becomes the wings that allow you to fly rather than the burden you drag along behind you.”

“One of the central elements of resilience, Bonanno has found, is perception: Do you conceptualize an event as traumatic, or as an opportunity to learn and grow? Events are not traumatic until we ex...”

“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn't li...”

“I wonder if fears ever really go away, or if they just lose their power over us.”

“Fear is all in the mind”