“When shame is met with compassion and not received as conrmation of our guilt, we can begin to see how slant a lens it has had us looking through. That awareness lets us step back far enough to see...”

“Power is confusing for us, perhaps even terrifying, because our relationship with it had an unfortunate beginning. Someone in a position of power over us used and abused usIt seems as if power were...”

“When we first begin to take power more directly, after long having kept our relationship to it underground...it is natural that we experience anxiety, even guilt, at putting ourselves first. These ...”

“For change to occur in us, we must be willing to enter the wilderness of the unknown and to wander in unfamiliar territory, directionless and often in the darkness....We do not need to keep every l...”

“In the grief that comes with recognizing what happened to us, we often feel there is nowhere to turn for solaceWe do things to keep it away, such as becoming overly busy or using drugs or alcohol t...”

“As we move away from the old role in which we were helplessly entrapped as a victim, we make friends with the people who affirm us. Their enthusiasm about us mirrors the positive experience we are ...”

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

“A BILL OF ASSERTIVE RIGHTSI: You have the right to judge your own behavior, thoughts, and emotions, and to take the responsibility for their initiation and consequences upon yourself.II: You have t...”

“I am enthusiastic and optimistic.”

“You are the gatekeeper to your life and your home. You get to decide who or what comes in and what needs to stay out. If it doesn't contribute to the peaceful home you are now trying to have, then ...”

“Saying yes comes very easily to me and, more often than not, I get into situations that could have been avoided by using the magical two letter word, NO. Then I sit back and regret having said yes ...”

“If you spend your life sparing peoples feelings and feeding their vanity, you get so you cant distinguish what should be respected in them.”

“Sometimes the only way to gain someones favor is to stop giving them yours.”

“Sometimes the only way to gain someone's favor is to stop giving them yours.”

“Anyone can conquer anything, but the conquest of self frees the ego, and rewards one with limitless boundaries”