Self care isnt always pretty , its not always candles and a bathtub full of roses , sometimes its forcing yourself to get out of bed and dragging yourself , sometimes its the pep talk you give to yourself or the quick cry in the corner . sometimes it is convincing yourself to do all these things you should be doing but you have no will whatsoever , sometimes its cutting some ties no matter how precious they were , sometimes its the bitter medicine you need to give yourself .