“Music, I'd heard him say, was like dessert. He could live without it, but life just wasn't as good.”

“Telling my story was supposed to be a good thing but it had just made everything worse.”

“I was so tired of his being even-keeled in the face of all that was upsetting and ugly and illogical.”

“Some people say the Balkans is just inherently violent. That we have to fight a war every fifty years.""I hope that's not true", I said.”

“I'd studied English since the first grade but considered it a murky language, one whose grammar seemed to have been made up on the fly”

“I tried to think of a singularly American superstition. I'd learned a few from the Unclessomething about not letting one's shoes touch the kitchen tablebut those were all imported from the Old Worl...”

“In a universe where all life is in movement, where ever fact seen in perspective is totally engaging, we impose stillness on lively young bodies, distort reality to dullness, make action drudgery. ...”

“If only she could be so oblivious again, to feel such love without knowing it, mistaking it for laughter. ”

“When you're a kid all you know is that your dad puts on his suit or overalls and vanishes from your life until nightfall. Sometimes my pops came back exhausted and scarlet-eyed, as if he'd been eng...”

“work at our responsibility as parents as if everything in life counted on it, because in fact everything in life does count on it.”

“Happiness [is] only real when shared”

“That's what people do who love you. They put their arms around you and love you when you're not so lovable.”

“The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn't li...”

“I wonder if fears ever really go away, or if they just lose their power over us.”

“Fear is all in the mind”