It is precisely when we hear little from our partner which frightens, shocks, or sickens us that we should begin to be concerned, for this may be the surest sign that we are being gently lied to or shielded from the others imagination, whether out of kindness or from a touching fear of losing our love. It may mean that we have, despite ourselves, shut our ears to information that fails to conform to our hopes hopes which will thereby be endangered all the more. My view of human nature is that all of us are just holding it together in various ways and thats okay, and we just need to go easy with one another, knowing that were all these incredibly fragile beings.
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