Men have external genitalia, while women have internal genitalia. This simple difference makes a lot of difference in how they write about themselvesand how you might write about your characters. Male writers dont often address internal sensation in a character, because they dont experience it (and probably often dont realize consciously that its there). This accounts for a lot of Really Terrible sex scenes written by men (if you look at the Bad Sex-Scene Awards in any given year, youll see that the vast majority are done by male writers).
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