Everyone," Ross said, "seems a little less concerned than I do. Am I more tender-hearted for others or only tender because of my own conscience?""We are notuntender," she said. "Not so. But maybe we are moreresigned. When a man is condemned to death we accept it, though it's sad to do so. We know we cannot change it. You hoped to change itso it's more of aa disappointment. You feel you have failed. We don't feel that because we never hoped to succeed.